Day 6 – You have the strength to shape yourself and your life

Exercise – Day 6

Sometimes you scold yourself, and feel bad about yourself.
Maybe you feel that your partner, boss, family, or other people are to blame for the way you behave or that they are the cause of the direction your life has taken.
Sometimes you feel sorry for yourself, compare if you are worse or better than others, are unhappy about things in your life, or maybe sacrifices your own needs for others out of obligation or guilt.
But above is all thoughts, feelings, or things you do to yourself.

Sometimes we take power from victimhood.
But by doing so, we give up our own power.
It happens to the best of us.
But it is important to realize when you give up your own power.

When you give up your own power and strength, you become small and worthless.
With the awareness of when you feel powerless, you can change and get back your strength and your worth. It starts with awareness.
When you are aware, you can make a conscious decision, how you want to live your life and how you want to treat yourself.

Today you will train yourself to think about where you make yourself small. Where do you make yourself powerless?
It is part of your journey to train yourself to be free from that and give yourself the power back.

Tip:
Put your phone on airplane mode to avoid distractions for the next 8 minutes.

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STEP 1:
This step takes approx. 5-8 minutes.

How do you treat yourself in the relation to YOU.
To understand how you treat yourself – reflect on below questions.
Write your thoughts down:

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1. Your thoughts about you
How do you think about yourself? With respect? Love? Care?

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2. Your thoughts about your body
What do you think about your body? Do you wear clothes that make you feel beautiful/sexy/comfortable with yourself? Do you treat your body with love? Do you think about your body with love?

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3. Your communication
Do you talk about yourself to others in a positive way? Do you often say “people” or “someone” instead of I? Can you clearly say what you want and don’t want? Can you share your thoughts and opinions and feel safe about doing so?

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4. Your dreams
Do you do what you dream of? Do you do things just for fun? Do you do what you are passionate about? Do you have dreams?


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STEP 2:
This step takes approx. 5-8 minutes.

How do you treat yourself in your close relations?
To understand how you treat yourself – reflect on below questions:
Write your thoughts down:

1. Your Family
Do you spend as much time with your family as you would like? Do you feel the presence you want with your family? Are you happy with your role in your family?

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2. Love / partner
Do you have a partner who loves and respects you? Do you get your needs met? Are you happy in your relationship? If you do not have a partner now, what has your previous relationship been like? What do you want from a relationship?

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3. Relationships friendships
Are your friendships loving? Nourishing? Respectful? Equal? Are you authentic in your friendships?


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STEP 3:
This step takes approx. 3-5 minutes.

How do you treat yourself in other parts of life?
To understand how you treat yourself – reflect on below questions:
Write your thoughts down:

1. Your home
Do you live as you wish? Do you include yourself in your home as much as you want? Do you do things at home that you think is nice?

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2. Work / Job
Do you feel that you use yourself optimally in your work? Do you feel that your work makes sense? Gives joy?


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STEP 4:
This step takes approx. 3-4 minutes.

Marvelous!
Did you find parts of your life where you feel that it is not optimal for you?
When you are unhappy and do not act on it yourself, you give away your power, strength, and value.
But you do have power! You do have strength! And you do have value!

You can act in many ways.
For example, if you are unhappy about your body. These might be the things you say to yourself: “I weigh too much”, “My thighs are too big”, or “I have saggy breasts”.
But you can choose to not say that to yourself. To be kind to all of your body! To show your body love anyway. You can treat your body with kindness every day. Give your body a hug. It’s your choice.

So, the purpose is to tell you that if you are unhappy and do not make a concious decission on how you will act on it, then you give away your power. Only you have the power to give your power away and only you have the power to give yourself your power back!

For some, it can be hard to discover that they, themselves, have given away their own strength, power and worth. Some feel guilt towards themselves.

But from now on you can move on. You will most likely discover when you are making yourself powerless.
And that gives you a chance to change it.

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The last exercise will help you to forgive yourself so you can move on.
Do the following:

Say this sentence aloud to yourself (if possible, stand in front of the mirror and say it while looking into your eyes):

“Dear [name]. I’m sorry for the times I have left you alone. I’m sorry I have thought critical thoughts about you, made you small, and doubted your worth.
I did the best I could in the situation. But I’m sorry.
I promise you I will do my best to be true to you. I will be your best friend.”

You can add extra text if you feel something is missing.

For some, it is helpful to write it down instead of saying it out loud.
As if you write a letter to yourself.
If you do any above, remember to be loving and compassionate.
You do not need scolding or guilt. But a nurturing and loving greeting to you from yourself.


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Congratulations!
You have done great work!

It can be tough to discover so much about yourself in just one week.
Be proud of all the tasks you have done.
You are important, and all corners of you are interesting to explore.
YOU are interesting to explore.

Thanks for today.


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“In the long run, we shape our lives, and we shape ourselves. The process never ends until we die.  And the choices we make are ultimately our own responsibility.”  ~Eleanor Roosevelt

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